June 19, 2013

I need an attorney to help with a custody/child support matter.  I have physical custody of the kids; mom has substance abuse issues and has been out of the home for at least 5 years.  Mom owes me about $8K in child support, mom now trying to get more visitation with kids.  What should I do?

Attorney answer:

In this situation, if the parties can meet together, I recommend mediation.  A mediator can help create a safe, secure setting where these folks can communicate effectively to develop skills and strategies for planning a future parenting schedule.  I favor the mediation process because the strengths and abilities of each parent can be identified to support and develop a safe plan that is “child focused.”  It is also less expensive.  Best wishes.

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My Wife and I want a divorce, where do we file the paperwork?

Thinking about divorce?  Divorce can be expensive.  You may do it yourself (“diy”) or you could hire attorneys to help, but to save time, frustration and cost, you could use divorce mediation.  It’s simple, if you are willing to:

  • Participate in good faith
  • Listen carefully
  • Think critically
  • Reason clearly
  • Solve problems creatively
  • Communicate effectively

If you decide on a “do it yourself” divorce,  the Worcester Probate & Family Court has jurisdiction over towns in Worcester County.  If you reside in a town in Worcester County, you can file your divorce in the Worcester Probate Court, 225 Main Street, Worcester, MA 01608.

Any questions? Contact us, we help people through divorce.  Call Yvonne to schedule your free divorce mediation consultation, 508 795 0200.

 

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Work Product of Mediator Confidential

My question: A few years ago, I was a party to a lawsuit and my attorney represented me in the mediation. Am I precluded from finding out of the contents of the discussions or documents submitted in the mediation in which my attorney represented me? In other words, does Mediation Privilege apply to me?

Parker Mediation provides Divorce Mediation Services in Massachusetts. Confidential Communications during Mediation in Massachusetts is governed by M.G.L.A. 233 § 23C.

§ 23C. Work product of mediator confidential; confidential communications; exception; mediator defined

All memoranda, and other work product prepared by a mediator and a mediator’s case files shall be confidential and not subject to disclosure in any judicial or administrative proceeding involving any of the parties to any mediation to which such materials apply. Any communication made in the course of and relating to the subject matter of any mediation and which is made in the presence of such mediator by any participant, mediator or other person shall be a confidential communication and not subject to disclosure in any judicial or administrative proceeding; provided, however, that the provisions of this section shall not apply to the mediation of labor disputes.

For the purposes of this section a “mediator” shall mean a person not a party to a dispute who enters into a written agreement with the parties to assist them in resolving their disputes and has completed at least thirty hours of training in mediation and who either has four years of professional experience as a mediator or is accountable to a dispute resolution organization which has been in existence for at least three years or one who has been appointed to mediate by a judicial or governmental body.

Mass. Gen. Laws Ann. ch. 233, § 23C

It may make sense to ask the mediator that handled your case to provide you with the answer or check with an attorney regarding the laws in your state. Best wishes, and if we can help you further, feel free to call us at 508 795 0200.

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Alimony Reform Act of 2011

How is Alimony determined in Massachusetts?

The Alimony Reform Act of 2011, amends Chapter 208 §34 of the Massachusetts General Laws by adding §§48-55. The new alimony law goes in to effect March  1, 2012.  It provides updated guidelines for determining alimony in Massachusetts, including presumptive limits on the amount and duration of alimony.  The new law  will promote consistency in alimony orders and flexibility in the types of alimony  ordered, while reserving judicial discretion for special circumstances.

Under the Alimony Reform Act of 2011, there are several types of alimony: General Alimony, Rehabilitative Alimony, Reimbursement Alimony
and Transitional Alimony.  The new alimony guidelines create a structure for determinations of alimony. The various types of alimony provide for increased flexibility in making alimony orders, while specific guidelines promote consistency in alimony orders. Since there are always special circumstances, the new Alimony Act preserves judicial discretion in creating fair and equitable alimony orders.

Contact an experienced divorce attorney mediator to learn how the Alimony Reform Act of 2011 may affect you.  If you are contemplating divorce, if you are currently receiving alimony, if you are paying alimony, or if you are a stay-at-home parent, you need to understand the impact of the new alimony laws.  Contact us at 508 795 0200 to learn more.

 

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Does divorce mediation work for all personality types?

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My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, I’ve been unhappy in our marriage for the past 4 years. We have agreed to get divorced.  He is a successful CFO of a Worcester, Massachusetts based company and is very powerful and influential.  Given his personality, do I have any hope that divorce mediation will be successful?

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

Divorce mediation can still be successful.  You should share your concerns about your husband’s stature and personality with the mediator in your husband’s presence so that your feelings can taken into consideration.  Many successful mediations involve couples with different or asymmetric strengths and weaknesses.

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My husband has threatened me. Can we still mediate our divorce?

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My husband and I have been married for 4 years.  We rent an apartment in Chatham, MA, have no kids and few assets.  We agreed to mediate our divorce, but can divorce mediation be successful if my husband has been physically threatening to me?

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

No one should feel physically threatened in mediation or in a relationship.  If your safety is at risk, you should consider a restraining order.  Go to a courthouse near you or to the police. If you’re not sure about this, talk to a lawyer with family law experience.  It’s unlikely that mediation would be successful in a threatening environment.

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How can my ex-husband visit his son in Worcester, Mass if he lives in Mexico?

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We have been divorced since 2008 with shared custody.  My ex-husband was supposed to see our son every other weekend and he saw him for 2 weekends and hasn’t seen him since.  My son and I live in Worcester, MA and I recently found out my ex moved to Mexico.  Since he moved and hasn’t seen my son for 2 1/2 years, I decided to get a modification in which I’m asking for sole legal custody. We had a mediation in which he did appear saying that he has seen his son recently which is a total lie.  We have a court date coming up and I don’t know what the judge might rule. I’m not closed to the option of him seeing his son but I’d rather have sole custody because to my son he is a total stranger.

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

The court will consider any reasonable visitation schedule proposed by the parties jointly or separately.  Predicting the outcome when one party lives in Mexico is impossible. You may need counsel at the upcoming hearing.   If your husband is lying in mediation, that should be addressed with the mediator.  Mediation requires complete honesty to be successful.

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How do we determine a visitation schedule as we go through mediation?

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My husband and I are getting divorced and have both agreed to go through divorce mediation.  It seems that’s the only thing we can agree on.  He already has his own apartment in Shrewsbury, MA, but we can’t agree on how many nights our children can stay over with him.  I think they should be in their own familiar home until everything is sorted out.  In general, how long will mediation take and what would you advise we do in the meantime while we’re figuring things out?

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

The amount of time for mediation varies with the number of issues to be resolved and the ease or difficulty with which the parties address those issues.  The mediator can help the parties focus, but, in the end, it’s the parties who control this.  I have two recommendations.  You and your husband can begin mediation by limiting the subject to parental visitation.  Unless there are safety issues for the children, there should be visitation by the father, including overnights, while the mediation continues.  To wait for final resolution gives you a de facto veto over visitation by dragging out the procedure.  Or, if you and the father cannot agree, you can file for divorce and move for temporary orders so that a judge can hear your respective positions on visitation, then rule accordingly.  Once the temporary orders are in place, the mediation can take place with much less pressure on either party.

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How do I know if divorce mediation is right for us?

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My husband and I have been married for 8 years.  We live in Marlborough MA with our 2 children.  We are considering divorce mediation but aren’t sure if it’s “right” for us.  How do we know if divorce mediation is “right” for us?

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

Divorce mediation is a low-cost, civilized way to discuss and resolve issues prior to filing for a divorce.  Unless you and your spouse are in “War of the Roses” mode, there is nothing to be lost in attempting divorce mediation to address at least some of the divorce issues.  Usually a couple can move on from relatively easy issues to the more difficult ones once a discussion pattern has developed.  Even if the divorce mediation fails, you have lost only time and some relatively small fees.  Couples can always revert back to the traditional, costly adversarial process.

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How is alimony determined in Massachusetts?

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I’m getting a divorce. My wife makes more money than I do, will I be entitled to alimony and how is it determined in Massachusetts?

ATTORNEY ANSWER:

A new bill on Alimony was filed in January 2011 in the Massachusetts Senate.  It is not law yet, but if enacted, it will reform Alimony Law in Massachusetts.  The proposed bill would create several categories of alimony, establish durational limits, and provide guidelines on the calculation of alimony payments.
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